It’s a holiday today, and instead of lazing around the house like we did yesterday, I remembered that I still had a gift card to The Fun Factory. I told the kids the plan for the day, and they couldn’t wait!
Fast forward to after lunch, and we were finally on the way! Peter spent most of the drive over talking about which games he’d play. Then, as we got closer, he said “Mom, I don’t think I ever want to have my birthday party at the Fun Factory again.” He had his 6th birthday party here, and not only did the kids have fun, I literally only had to bring cake and kids. The staff take care of the rest!
When I asked why, he told me that a boy in his class said it’s for babies. *sigh* I remember those days. Wanting so badly to play a certain game, watch a certain movie, but feeling like maybe you’re getting too old for it.
This topic gets discussed regularly around Halloween, with everybody talking about teenagers being too old for trick or treating. I think that’s garbage. There are way worse things a teenager could be doing on Halloween, besides dressing up and asking for candy! We expect kids to know what they want to do with their lives by 18, and at the same time lament that they’re growing up too fast. Let them hold on to something!
Anyway, back to my son. I told him I’d never force him to have his party somewhere, but he should be the one making the decision, not some other kid. I know, easier said than done. It’s too common for kids to make fun of others for anything, from their clothes, to the games they play or books they read. If they deem it childish, it’s apparently fair game.
I try to instill in my kids the kind of confidence I wish I’d had when I was their ages. I was so preoccupied with how others might perceive me, that I’d have full blown anxiety attacks. I don’t want that for my kids. I want them to unabashedly love the things they love! I want them to be who they are, as long as they’re not hurting anybody else.
I remember being on the cusp of childhood. It’s agonizing. Let’s let our kids be kids.